27 Things You Need To Give Up In Order To Be Free & Stay Free
In life, we tend to think that to be successful we have to add ‘more’ into our lives, and as much as this is true in some respects, this isn’t the whole picture.
Sometimes giving up what no longer serves you can be much more powerful.
As you are now ready to step out into the world and go it alone there are certain things that you need to give up to stay migraine and headache-free. It’s time to release the old and embrace the new you.
Are you ready? Let’s begin…
1. Comparing yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy. Remember, you are in your own lane, running your own race at your own pace. Do you and only you, nothing else matters.
2. Trying to do it all
Yes, you want to live life to the fullest and yes, you want to go 100 miles per hour but don’t forget to listen to your body and to pace yourself. One step at a time.
3. Riding an emotional rollercoaster
Avoid getting too high on the highs and the lows on the lows. Use mental resilience to maintain composure and strength in challenging times. Remember, it’s your choice how you choose to react.
4. Letting others determine your decision-making process
No longer let others dictate what is good for you because you know your body and what you need better than anyone else. Be bold and be unapologetic in your decision making.
5. Trying to please others
When you live to please, you never put your true needs first. Stop following the crowd just to make others happy because it will impact your health.
6. Associating with the “sick” crowd
Who you spend time with is who you become. Find healing relationships that support you where you are in your journey. If you have developed friendships within the migraine community, that is wonderful. We are not suggesting you cut ties, we are suggesting you recognize where you give your energy, attention, emotion, and time.
7. Being the focus of attention
Illness brings attention and sympathy which you no longer need. Today release the need for attention. Find new topics to discuss and let your new narrative shine.
8. Choosing drama
Drama does not serve your emotional, physical, mental or spiritual self, so make it a practice of stepping away from drama and instead choose love and joy.
9. Where you think you “should” be in your journey
Understand this now; life will not go the way you expect it to, so stop planning and get comfortable with being flexible.
10. Talking about your illness/how you feel all the time
What you focus on you get more of so focus less on how you feel and more on positivity, love, and gratitude. This is in your past now.
11. Trying to reach “the end”
Want to know a secret? There is no “end”, only the beginning of a new chapter with new challenges.
12. Downplaying your current progress
When you focus on perfection rather than progress you lose sight of the bigger picture. Acknowledge your wins no matter how small.
13. Expecting logical outcomes
Life and logic don’t always go hand in hand, so learn to roll with the punches because you are capable of handling whatever comes your way.
14. Doing something just to fit in
When you follow the crowd just to fit in you no longer listen to your body. Be proud of your uniqueness. It’s your superpower.
15. Worrying about factors outside of your control
What is going to be is going to be, so work hard at what you can control but let the rest go. It’s liberating when you do.
16. Dwelling on setbacks
Life is full of setbacks but how successful you will be in life is determined by how you respond to these setbacks. How are you going to react?
17. Expecting a certain timeline of events to unfold
So you’ve planned out how long it will take to achieve X, Y, and Z. Now scrap it! Life is happening and unfolding in perfect time so learn to surrender to this.
18. Looking for shortcuts
Success in anything takes commitment, perseverance, practice and a lot of patience, so stop looking for shortcuts because it won’t help you sustain long-term success.
19. Throwing yourself a pity party
Have one, acknowledge it, snap out of it quickly and move on. The quicker you can do this the better you will feel. Self-pity does not serve you.
20. Expecting perfection
Perfection does not exist and the quicker you realize this the happier you will be in life. Strive for progress, not perfection.
21. Blaming other people/events
Take ownership for your health, your choices and your mistakes. Be accountable and step away from blaming others.
22. The fear of uncertainty
Living in a state of fear and anxiety does not serve your health. You have survived everything life has thrown at you until now and will continue to in the future.
23. Envying those who have what you want
There is always someone out there praying for what you have. Practice gratitude daily and embrace all the beauty that currently in your life. It’s a lot!
24. The victim mentality
Playing the victim leads you back into a whole host of destructive behaviors so understand that you are no longer this person. You are not a victim.
25. Having specific expectations
Specific expectations only set yourself up to experience disappointment. Harbour a positive outlook without the need for specific outcomes.
26. Being a migraine advocate
Being a migraine advocate discussing conventional treatments and methods do not serve your health and it only keeps you sick. Become an advocate for healing, health, and all things wellness. Freedom is possible.
27. Trying to control every single outcome
Everything is your life is unfolding for a reason, so learn to surrender to where you are, ask for guidance, and allow life to happen exactly it’s meant to.