Is Self-Sabotage Stopping You From Reaching Your Full Potential?
Sometimes in life, we blame things going wrong on external circumstances or situations just not going our way. However, what if it wasn’t external factors that were stopping us from reaching our full potential?
What if we are the one standing in our own way and holding ourselves back? What if we are the biggest roadblock to reaching our full potential?
Sometimes our biggest enemy in life can be ourselves.
What is Self-Sabotage?
Self-sabotage is any action that gets in the way of your intent or goal (for example, becoming migraine or headache free).
Self-sabotage operates in your subconscious mind so that it tends to go unnoticed and results in unwanted behaviors such as causing drama for no reason, overreacting to certain events, being self-critical, picking arguments with others, and procrastinating. These behaviors can be destructive and can mess with your best-made plans, goals, and victories at any time. 
However, self-sabotage doesn’t just happen out of the blue. There is a reason why it happens. And in order to overcome it, you have to find out why and get to the root cause of the problem.
Such destructive behaviors can happen for many reasons including feelings of low self-worth, the need to control, fear, the familiarity of past circumstances, resistance to change, and, most commonly, self-limiting beliefs. 
What are self-limiting beliefs?
Self-limiting beliefs (also known as unconscious beliefs) are beliefs that hold us back and restrain us in some way. They normally come from our childhood, our past experiences, our environment, social media, or our family or friends.
Examples of such self-limiting beliefs include:
- I am not worthy of becoming completely free of pain.
- I don’t deserve true happiness.
- I need everyone’s approval to be worthwhile.
- I’m inherently unlucky in life and bad things happen to me.
- People won’t like the real me.
- I’ll never be successful.
- I don’t deserve to live a healthy life.
When you hold such self-limiting beliefs, it will be impossible to reach your highest potential in life because there will always be a little voice in your head ready to sabotage you. That voice will always be ready to bring you back down to earth with a crash whenever you are about to make a change, achieve something, or better your life.
This voice is your inner critic, but in order to defeat your inner critic you need to work on changing such beliefs which. That will, in turn, stop your self-sabotaging behavior.
How to work with self-sabotaging behaviors and self-limiting beliefs
Take some time to check in with yourself and see if you are adopting any self-sabotaging behaviors. Questions to ask yourself include:
- In what context of my life is self-sabotage most likely to occur?
- Is there a day or time that this is most likely to happen?
- How does this self-sabotage affect the rest of my day, week, or month?
- Around what type of person is this reaction most likely to occur?
Now, look at your beliefs. Ask yourself:
- Where do my self-limiting beliefs come from?
- Have I learned them from a person, place, or group of people?
- Are they completely 110% true?
- What would happen if I were to let go of these beliefs? How would it affect my life?
Finally, spend some time coming up with new beliefs that replace your pre-existing limiting beliefs. For example:
- I don’t deserve to live a healthy life. → I have fought to regain my health and deserve to live an abundant, full life just like anyone else.
- I’m inherently unlucky in life and bad things happen to me. → Life happens for me and not to me. I choose to focus on all the good in my life because there is a lot.
- I don’t deserve true happiness. → I am worthy of health, love, success, and happiness. This is my birthright.
Becoming aware of self-sabotaging behaviors, learning what self-limiting beliefs might be behind them, and then beginning to replace those beliefs with new, uplifting, positive ones will help you start getting out of your own way. You don’t want to hold yourself back, because you deserve to live to your highest potential.
- Self-Sabotage – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-sabotage
- Why Do We Self-Sabotage – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-yourself/201710/why-do-we-self-sabotage-0